Adventures of a Good Guy

A GOOD GUY (what we’re about) is someone who is a good person. Instead of trying to be confident, he is OK with who he is. He respects and adores women, and he lets her know this. He isn’t afraid to show her he cares and gives her the freedom to choose.

A NICE GUY (what we laugh at) is someone who pretends to be a good guy. He may open doors, drive girls around, pays for expensive dinners, etc. But he does this from a place of wanting something. He wants to get into her pants, like any other straight guy.

Let’s use a bunch of case scenarios. In each situation, I’ll list what a “nice guy” would try to do, what a “good guy” does, and occasionally what North American society expects.

Situation 1:
Guy sets up meeting with girl at mall. Girl cancels last minute, and the guy is already there.
Nice guy: Either pretends it’s no big deal since “he was in the area anyways” or gets really angry and flips out and hates women.
Society expects: Guy remain calm and understanding, and chalk it up to the unexplainable nature of women.
Good guy: With a sad voice, says “I’m disappointed, I wanted to see you” and then talks to a cute woman passing by in the mall.

Situation 2:
A guy meets a girl at a party. They both seem to get along great and he likes her. They flirt a bit, make plans to meet up the next day, and suddenly the girl says “oh, i can’t stay long tho, i have to go to dinner with my boyfriend tomorrow night”.
Nice guy: Looks shocked, might even get angry. He blames her for “leading him on”, and thinks she’s a tease.
Society expects: Guy to stop flirting with her and find “other fish in the ocean”
Good guy: “I understand… we have enough time.” and doesn’t really react to it. He continues flirting with her, keeping discreet as usual.

Situation 3
Guy and girl both meet at a party. He finds her attractive.
Nice guy: Pretend to want to be friends, while he secretly wants to get into her pants
Society expects: Guy to ask her out on a group activity so she feels comfortable, and maybe transition into a date.
Good guy: Tells her he finds her attractive, without any excuses, and continues the interaction.

Situation 4
Guy and girl working together. He likes her.
Nice guy: Pretend to want to be friends. Might ask another female co-worker for help.
Society expects: Depending on where. Either completely against workplace hookups or for workplace hookups.
Good guy: EITHER like someone else because he’s against workplace hookups, or goes for her if he supports workplace hookups. Either way, he does it himself.